Hi guys! Welcome to my blog. I wanted to make this post a little more informal than usual just because I wanted to share my thoughts in a very clear way and wanted to make sure that you guys are able to easily identify the points that I will bring up.
This blog will be of an interest to you if
-You are waiting on your husband/ wife
-Are in a relationship and are looking to take things a step further
-Are going through the "post breakup syndrome"
*If you fit in any of these categories, please read on- and if you don't still read on* :)
Going from a Biblical standpoint, we see that God loves marriage and has called us to marriage. What I mean by that is, if you are waiting on your husband/ wife, you are not alone and God wants you to be married!
Genesis 2:18
The Lord God said "It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
- Those that are waiting on God for the right person: Are you waiting in God as much as you are waiting on God to bring you the marriage which you desire? It is easy to ask God to bring us the perfect person, but in your wait for the perfect person, are you really working on perfecting yourself so that when he/she comes you won't run them off? And if you are with the person whom you "think" God has called you to be with for the rest of your life, have you stopped seeking God's presence in that relationship to know if that's truly His will? What can you do during your singleness to exemplify your relationship with God? Are you maximizing your time, your worship, your interaction with God so that when He/She comes you'll know that He/She is the one? If you are waiting in God as much as you are waiting on God to reveal that person to you, the process will be more satisfying and way more rewarding once God reveals that man/woman of God to you because then there will be no doubt that he/she is the one for you.
- To those that are "post breakup" - you risked your heart, shared your life, bought the gifts, made the memories and dreamed dreams together- and it fell apart. There are hundreds just like you who go through this trauma daily- you are not alone. This experience can be one of the toughest experiences- so don't beat yourself up. But what's next? In Romans 8:28 we see that "All things work together for those that love the Lord, those that are called according to His purpose." Know that where you are right now was appointed unto you for God's divine planning for your life. You are not out of sequence and God has not forgotten about you! Every valley that you've went through is preparing you for the view at the top of the mountain! Every situation is shaping your character, molding your integrity, fixing you up to be ready for the person that God has in store for you. Speaking from experience, I know break ups can be a dark, emotional, rollercoaster. But know that time heals and God heals FASTER! Get into God's presence and seek Him while you wait on the right one so you won't waste any more time with the wrong one!
- To those that are in a relationship and want to take it a step further (Marriage) You've been with this person for a while now and you've gotten 'comfortable' and you 'think' they might be the one so you're deciding to take it a step further to engagement. First and foremost (speaking from the basis of the Holy Word) know that God created marriage as a sacred covenant and a ministry. You cannot tend to a marriage part time. Marriage is a full time/ 24 hour, LIFETIME commitment. Have you sought God to really know if that person is the one you're CALLED to be with or are you just making the decision based on circumstances? Have you spent enough time seeking God through the word to know what is expected in a marriage? Could you see yourself supporting your husband/wife's ministry? These are just a few questions to ask yourself before making this decision. Again, marriage is a beautiful thing. God favors and has called us to be married, but marriage with the wrong person can be a nightmare. Seek God to know His divine will for your life. .and ask Him to reveal to you who YOUR man/woman of God is.
In conclusion, I have spoken to taken, single, married individuals on the subject of relationships (or lack thereof) and what I've concluded is that before we start seeking/ searching for the right person to love us, we must learn to love ourselves, and before we can ever learn to do that, we must learn to love and be dedicated to God for only through Him can we know what true Love really is.
